{"id":5269,"date":"2026-07-06T22:24:16","date_gmt":"2026-07-06T20:24:16","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/gyerekrehangolva.hu\/?p=5269"},"modified":"2026-07-06T22:24:16","modified_gmt":"2026-07-06T20:24:16","slug":"szabalyok-gyerekkel-kozos-jatekra","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/gyerekrehangolva.hu\/en\/szabalyok-gyerekkel-kozos-jatekra\/","title":{"rendered":"8 basic rules: how to play with your young child!"},"content":{"rendered":"

For children, play is not just a form of relaxation, but also a way of learning about themselves and the world around them. Our role is not to direct or teach, but to participate in a supportive way.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Play is the most characteristic form of activity in children\u2019s behaviour. We adults tend to underestimate the importance of play, defining it simply as a form of recreation. However, it plays a far more important role in young children\u2019s lives, as it is closely linked to their physical, emotional, intellectual and social development. As time goes by, the nature and function of play also change in line with this. Through play, young children become familiar with their own bodies, minds and spirits, as well as with the workings and boundaries of the world around them. To ensure this can truly take place, always bear in mind the following 8 rules when playing together!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

#1 You don\u2019t need many toys, but they should be multifunctional<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

From the time our children are babies, we tend to accumulate more and more toys. We can surely list many expensive gifts which, after just a few weeks, no longer held our child\u2019s attention at all. One reason for this may be a lack of imagination, in which the absence of parental role modelling can play a major part. Another common reason is when a toy is too specialised, meaning it cannot be used for anything other than its intended purpose. The simpler a toy is, the more versatile it becomes. A couple of wooden block<\/a>, a Duplo brick or a train track can symbolise building materials, a road, a telephone, a remote control, a sandwich, or even a hammer. By contrast, a large plastic turtle with three buttons on its back, for example, is much less likely to represent anything other than a turtle. Of course, it is we who can initially demonstrate the use of these symbols to our little ones, thereby launching them into a world of imagination that will support not only their personal development but also social learning. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

#2 Play should always be spontaneous and voluntary!<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

For children, any activity can be a game, and any experience can turn into a game. They are still able to see the magic in everything. They don\u2019t even need specific toys. For them, every situation offers a wealth of possibilities for them to explore. Play is triggered by an instinctive, inner urge, a kind of curiosity. A curiosity about how things work and what they can be used for. Unlike adults, for younger children the focus is not yet on achieving a pre-defined goal, but on the experience of discovery itself. They long to experience things first-hand. Whatever happens (as long as there are no accidents), they\u2019ll feel a sense of achievement.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Play should therefore always be spontaneous and voluntary. We can offer options, but the decision should always be the child\u2019s! If we don\u2019t stick to this, it won\u2019t be real play, as the joy of discovery itself will be lost.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

#3 Only get involved if he asks you to!<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

The presence of parents (or trusted adults) is important for children. It is through them that children feel safe. On the one hand, if their need for security is not met, this can prevent them from becoming fully immersed in play; on the other hand, however, in many cases they do not actually need us to participate in their play. During adult-free play, they are able to let go of their desire to please us, allowing them to express and process their emotions, thoughts and experiences without any particular constraints. So sometimes, all they need is to feel that you are there, nearby. However, you should only take an active part in the play if your child asks you to.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

#4 Be there!<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Whether you\u2019re simply there as a distant observer or take centre stage in your child\u2019s play, each role has its own place in their development. However, your mere physical presence won\u2019t be enough for your child if your thoughts are completely elsewhere. Their brains are extremely sensitive; they pick up on much smaller cues than your fully developed mind does. If we simply need to create a safe environment for the little one, then of course this is not as important as when we actively take part in the play itself. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Children feel a constant urge to attract their parents\u2019 attention \u2013 to feel seen, heard, understood and valued. This also helps to build their self-esteem. However, if our minds are preoccupied with the logistics of getting through tomorrow, or we\u2019re fretting that we still haven\u2019t put together yesterday\u2019s presentation \u2013 and that\u2019s why the boss gave us a frown today \u2013 then our physical presence means nothing to the child. It\u2019s no good for them, and it\u2019s no good for us either. Letting go of the past and the future, even for just half an hour, whilst we play with our child, is a gift for both of us. We, too, can enjoy the carefree nature of childhood, and our child can feel important.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

#5 Don\u2019t lead, just follow!<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

When playing with our children, we can almost imperceptibly take control. We immediately start giving advice or judging their thoughts and solutions. We are not driven by malice, just by habit. But this means the game loses its other essential element: free self-expression. In many areas of life, our children have to submit to the demands of adults. In order for their self-regulation system to develop later on \u2013 that is, for them to learn to control themselves \u2013 they need a space where they are in charge. A place where they can test their limits, process their experiences and practise the behavioural patterns they consider important.
The game takes place in Neverland, where there\u2019s no difference between adults and children. There, even a child can be our boss. Hand over control \u2013 as long as it\u2019s not dangerous! They invite us to join in, they assign the tasks, they direct the action, they define what things mean, and they decide when it\u2019s over!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

#6 Let your imagination run wild, and let the child make mistakes! Think outside the box!<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

As adults, we sometimes find it difficult to let our imaginations run free. The information about the world that we have gathered since childhood has long since been organised into folders and templates in our minds, and we find it hard to break free from them. Children, however, still think without boundaries, in line with their own level of development. To form as realistic a picture as possible of the world in which they live, they need to try out their ideas. As parents, we are often baffled as to why our child isn\u2019t doing that \u201etask\u201d correctly (such as putting the baby in the cot the right way round), even though they\u2019ve just done it perfectly once before. To this, one might reply: that\u2019s exactly why! After all, they\u2019ve already done it that way; now they want to try it this way too.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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We can teach them to follow the rules we set, but in that case we shouldn\u2019t expect them to become independent thinkers. They need to learn from their own experiences.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

#7 Encourage them, and praise them wisely!<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Children look to us for acceptance, understanding and recognition; they need our reassurance in order to accept, understand and value themselves. We, as parents, therefore play a huge role in helping them develop a strong, positive sense of self-worth. Playing together offers a wonderful opportunity to express our appreciation for our child. During play, recognise those small steps that your child has tried so hard to get right, with great care and a lot of effort! It doesn\u2019t have to be perfect; it\u2019s enough that you see the effort. And make sure your praise is descriptive \u2013 in other words, when you say \u201ewell done\u201d, add exactly what they did well. This will give them a clearer picture of which part of the task they completed excellently, and it can also help to expand their vocabulary. When giving praise, it\u2019s also worth encouraging the child to evaluate their own work. Just ask: \u2018And are you proud of yourself for doing that\u2026?\u2019<\/p>\n\n\n\n

#8 Let him let off some steam!<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Through play, children can also effectively process the emotions that have built up inside them. If they can re-experience a previous anxiety-inducing event in their play \u2013 knowing what to expect this time \u2013 the intense emotion is thereby alleviated. For example, aggression expressing anger may also appear in play, and it has an important role to play. Help your child find ways to play in which they can experience and process their anger in a socially acceptable way. This could involve shouting, throwing things, jumping about \u2013 in fact, any kind of high-energy movement. The more suppresses his negative emotions<\/a>, the more intensely and unpredictably they will surface later on. However, with dinosaur roars, imaginary ant-stomping or even a pillow fight, children can easily cope with these emotions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Originally published on: divany.hu, 10 March 2020.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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